Saturday, October 13, 2012
I Want To Engaged And He Doesn't
Yes, this is a common problem these days. I have seen many girls saying,
"I want to get engaged and he doesn't",
"I want to get engaged and my boyfriend doesn't”,
"I want to get married but he's not ready".
Many of them are even ready to give an ultimatum to get that sought after wedding ring. However, I think this is not a right way as using an ultimatum without authentication may be like committing relationship suicide. Let us see why a girl should avoid using an ultimatum.
This is true that a woman waiting for more than a year or two to get engaged may be living a life of desperation and that desperation can even lead to threats or ultimatum. However before throwing an engagement or marriage ultimate on your boyfriend you should see whether it is mandatory or not because such kind of pressure and "all or nothing" attitude may end your relationship for ever.
Yes, you may use such ultimatum if you are prepared to live without your boyfriend. Because chances are there you may get negative response to your "now or never" threat and you may have to pack your bag and baggage forever. If you are not in such a firm position then do not use such ultimatum as it will result in your losing all the credibility and weight in the relationship.
So, I will advise you to give an ultimatum only if you may hear the truth and may act according to his response. Yes, there is much better way to get him to pop the question WITHOUT using threats and dangerous ultimatums."