Yes, this is a common problem these days. I have seen many girls saying,
"I want to
get engaged and he doesn't",
"I want to
get engaged and my boyfriend doesn't”,
"I want to
get married but he's not ready".
Many of them are even ready to give an ultimatum to get that sought
after wedding ring. However, I think
this is not a right way as using an ultimatum without authentication may be
like committing relationship suicide.
Let us see why a girl should avoid using an ultimatum.
This is true that a woman
waiting for more than a year or two to get engaged may be living a life of
desperation and that desperation can even lead to threats or ultimatum. However before throwing an engagement or
marriage ultimate on your boyfriend you should see whether it is mandatory or
not because such kind of pressure and "all or nothing" attitude may
end your relationship for ever.
Yes, you may use such ultimatum if you are prepared to live without
your boyfriend. Because chances are
there you may get negative response to your "now or never" threat and
you may have to pack your bag and baggage forever. If you are not in such a firm position then
do not use such ultimatum as it will result in your losing all the credibility
and weight in the relationship.
So, I will advise you to give an ultimatum only if you may hear the
truth and may act according to his response.
Yes, there is much better way to get him to pop the question WITHOUT
using threats and dangerous ultimatums."
